This type of intelligence is one of the intelligence that is considered complement the intellectual intelligence (IQ) that existed first. Emotional intelligence first appeared in 1964 in a paper by Michael Beldoch, and in 1966 in the B Leuner paper. Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is defined as the ability of a person to control emotions in himself and others.
A person who has a good EQ can separate emotions and use them as a material of thought as well as self-behavior. EQ is considered to provide benefits in behaving, even in a career.
Usually, if you want to know the level of EQ in yourself, one must carry out a series of tests with a psychologist. But in a forum discussion in Quora, there are some actions that reflect the EQ that can be seen in everyday life without you needing to pay psychological tests.
- Listening and speaking
An account on behalf of Bran Bain writes that people with high EQ will be quick in listening and slow in talking. It shows awareness in conversation with others.
- Be careful
In his review, Paul Denlinger, explaining sometimes having emotional intelligence means he is careful in acting.
“The best example of emotional intelligence is to remain silent when circumstances are not possible, keep looking, observing, and listening to others,” he wrote.
- Managing emotions
Akanksha Ujjawal argues that self-control is an indicator of someone with a high EQ.
“They are very good at managing their emotions before losing themselves and exploding like volcanoes.They understand human emotions are very strong and can not be ignored and they handle it very quickly,” he wrote.
- A sense of humor
A controlled sense of humor is an important aspect that a person possesses with a high EQ, according to Venkatesh Rao. He argues that the person who turns everything into a joke and people does not laugh because of it, has a very serious EI.
“Sometimes this happens to comedians in their real life,” he said.
While Hans Jacobsen considered that receiving feedback can be a signal of quality from one’s emotional capacity.
“Explain to people that you are open to a response, and you want a response, and those with high EI listen attentively,” Jacobsen said.
People with high EQ according to Jacobsen will try to make others know they are listening.
If you do believe that the ability to manage your emotions can improve your quality of life, you just need a simple key, which is to keep pushing yourself to practice emotional intelligence.